Had such a pleasant day today. Felt a bit like an old wise man, so here are my thoughts/advices:

1. Decide on what you want. It sounds so simple, but trust me, a lot of people have difficulties realising EXACTLY what makes them happy. Happiness is what we want, but you have to decide what it is that makes you happy. Define it. Try and get rid of the “I don’t know” feeling. I’m mostly going towards the relationship aspect here, where once you decide what you want to be (whether you want to be single, in a relationship, fuck buddies, or whatever it is) then it just gives the other person a chance to see whether they want the same thing and they are not left wondering. Therefore, if both parties are aware of what they want, then it is much easier to work out something that works for both of them. 
2. Change for yourself, and no one else. You have to accept that change comes from you. No one else. If you want to change, then you must do it for yourself. I can’t stress this enough, but seriously, you can’t rely on other people to change you. It’s great when people say “You changed me, I’m a much better person.” Yes, it’s great that you are better, but you need to realise that YOU changed yourself. We also need to look at it from the other side, where we also need to know that we can’t change people. We can influence them, but not entirely “perfect” them or “mould” them. Again, in the aspect of dating/relationships or whatever you want to call it, you can’t go out with someone thinking that you can change them. Whatever they are, they will be like that for a while, unless they change themselves. Otherwise, you shouldn’t even be with them if you don’t like the way they are. In saying that, if you’re the person who is being “moulded”, then you also need to rethink the situation. If the other person doesn’t like how you are, then why are you together? There will always be something that annoys you about the other person, and vice-versa, but when you try to change, do it for yourself.
3. Language is a choice. When I say language, I mean speech and body language. When I was in New Caledonia, Jean-Pierre told us that speaking is a choice. If you choose to use connaître, then it’s meant to be followed a noun, if you choose savoir, then it’s followed by a question word. Basically, there are pathways to choose when speaking. Today, I was taught that language is subjective, which means that you decide how you say something, and how it’s interpreted. The meaning that comes out of you and the one that goes in other person, could be different. Anyway, from these two points, I’ve decided that the way you act and the pathways that you choose are up to you. So, you are the one choosing how you interpret the world. You decide which pathway to take. Now, why not choose the path to feel good? Be happy. 

That is all for now. I hope everyone had a good day too. If not, then tomorrow can always be a good one! 

i am so blessed to have you all. i feel like the luckiest girl to have some of the best people in the world in my life. i call you my friends for different reasons. some are laughing buddies, some are crying buddies, some are tv show buddies, travelling buddies, a lot are people watching buddies. no matter what reason i am friends with you, i am thankful to have you in my life. i love you all so much, and i really mean that. most of you have been there for and with me throughout all the douchebags of my life. thank you for hanging on and not being one of them. i hope we can make this friendship last for a very long time. 

i love you and thank you all so much for being amazing people.

Love always,

Pauline